This evening, after dinner, Sean suddenly came up to me with an idea. He suggested having a chart that starts with 100 points and for every misdeed, points get deducted. I was intrigued...I was wondering what he had up his sleeves.
I asked him if he would have points added for being good. He replied, "You don't need to add points if I'm good."
Before I move on, I have to say I've never been one for reward/sticker charts. Probably cos I'm not organised enough. But I remember trying it out with Brian when he was little and he soon started coming up to me to report on the good things he was doing, hoping I'd add a star or something. That didn't seem right to me, my view is that behaving well should be something expected of them, so why should they be rewarded for that? Of course, I do praise them when I notice them doing good things (when I remember lah).
The boys have been bickering lots every mealtime. Brian doesn't wait for Sean to get to the table before saying Grace, and Sean refuses to say "Korkor chi (eat)" when this happens. I was actually wondering while cleaning up today on how to resolve this. And then, Sean came up with this idea, maybe he sensed my exasperation.
Anyway, I told him if I deduct points for his chart, I should also add points if he's being good. Then I asked him, "So what happens at the end of the week, after we have the final score?" He said, "Nothing"
"Nothing?? Then what's the point?" I asked.
"So that I'll remember to be good," came his reply.
"But what if you get many points cos you've been so good?"
"Nothing. I don't need a prize," he said.
"You don't need a reward? Really?"
Hmmmm....I found this a bit strange. What if you have very little points?
He thought for a while, then said, mmm, okay then you can smack my backside.
DEAL! A 'reward' chart without rewards, that sounds like a good bargain for me hehehe.
This chart thing is supposed to start on Monday and so far this is what he's come up with for point deduction.
- Check Mousehunt without mummy's permission: -10
- Disturb Korkor: -20
- Jump on the bed: -5
- Beat Korkor: -12
- Say Grace before korkor comes to the table: -8
- Shout at Korkor: -50
- Disturb Mummy: -40
- Disturb Korkor and Mummy: -60
- Try to get Korkor to play tortoise talk when he's doing his work: -80
- Don't listen to Mummy: -99
- Don't listen to Korkor: -88
- Go into Korkor's room when he's working without permission: -90
- Lock the door to Mummy's room so Korkor can't get in: -100
- Don't say "Kor kor chi": -15
- Say bad things about Korkor: -48
That's the list of misdeeds he can think of for now. I'm sure there'll be more by Monday :)
I've already thought of some
- Don't brush teeth before breakfast: -20
- Don't bathe myself: -20
- Don't put dirty clothes in the laundry basket: -40
I can't really think of anything for adding points...I guess we'll just stick to deducting points only then :) But looking at his point system, I think I should be kind and let him start off with 1000 points, or he'll end up with a sore backside every day of the week.