I have this thing I do sometimes as a joke when I see the boys after school. With Brian, I'll go, "Hi Gorgeous!"...and give him a big kiss. Then I'll say, "Oh, you look so gorgeous today, did anyone in school say you looked gorgeous?" His standard reply is always, "No...but no one said I didn't."
Today, Sean went to school in bermudas. After school, I gushed, "Awww, you look so cute today. Did anyone say you were cute today?" He replied No. I said, "What?? Are they blind??" He said firmly, "No, it's just that I'm not cute, and that's fine!"
I think they both have healthier self-esteem than I do!